3 Steps to Get Unstuck

Why We Resist and What It Really Means

As October arrives and nature prepares for its season of rest, we are reminded of the power of letting go. The falling leaves teach us that sometimes the most productive thing we can do is surrender what no longer serves us.

But what if we applied this same wisdom to procrastination? In the fast-paced world of hustle culture, procrastination is often demonized. We beat ourselves up, ask why we can’t just do the thing, and make promises to do better next time.

But what if procrastination wasn’t the problem? What if it was a clue?

Procrastination can be a form of resistance. Maybe you’re avoiding a task because of fear—fear of failure, fear of not doing it perfectly, or fear of what success might bring. Or perhaps you’re just tired, and your body is asking for rest.

The truth is, procrastination can teach us a lot about our needs. It’s the nervous system signaling that something isn’t aligned, that you may need to slow down or change your approach.

Here’s 3 steps to get unstuck and how to use this October season to shift your relationship with procrastination:

1. Get Curious 

When you find yourself procrastinating, pause and ask: What’s really going on here? Instead of jumping to the conclusion that you’re lazy or unmotivated, consider whether the task itself might be triggering something deeper.              • Fear of Failure: Are you worried that the outcome won’t be perfect, so it’s easier not to start at all? Try shifting your mindset to see progress as more valuable than perfection.            

• Overwhelm: Sometimes the task feels too big. If it feels overwhelming, break it down into smaller, manageable pieces.            

• Lack of Alignment: Maybe the task just doesn’t feel aligned with your values. Is it something you really need to do, or could it be that you’re saying ‘yes’ when ‘no’ would better serve you? Journal for a few minutes when you catch yourself procrastinating, and you may uncover some valuable insights about your resistance. 2. Take One Small Step 

Big tasks often feel daunting because we focus on the whole project instead of the first tiny step. When the mountain seems too tall to climb, start with the smallest possible action. Here’s how to approach this:            

• Set a Timer: Commit to working on a task for just 10 minutes. Often, just getting started is the hardest part, and once you begin, momentum will carry you forward.             • Chunk It Down: Break your task into the smallest possible steps. If you’ve been putting off writing a report, start by opening the document and writing the title. Then, tackle the next step.        • Celebrate the Small Wins: Every small action you take moves you closer to your goal. Acknowledge these wins, even if they seem insignificant. This builds confidence and positive momentum.

3. Release the Guilt 

Procrastination often comes with a side of guilt, but shaming yourself rarely leads to action. This October, take a cue from the falling leaves and practice letting go—especially letting go of guilt.             • Shift Your Perspective: Guilt around procrastination often stems from unrealistic expectations. Ask yourself if you’re expecting too much of yourself in too little time. It’s okay to slow down.        • Practice Self-Compassion: Instead of criticizing yourself for not being productive, acknowledge that you’re doing your best with what you have. Give yourself permission to rest, reset, and try again tomorrow.             • Reflect on Your Energy: Sometimes, procrastination is your body’s way of asking for rest. If you’re feeling drained, honor that need. Rest can be a powerful form of productivity, allowing you to return to tasks with renewed focus. This fall, instead of rushing through your to-do list, take a breath. Reflect on what procrastination might be whispering to you; and embrace the possibility of moving at a pace that feels right for you.

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